I Am Bee Mice Elf

“It ain't what they call you, it's what you answer to.” ~W.C. Fields

Can I say this? Should I say this? I’m GOING to say this!

A very successful writer friend once told me “never put the apology upfront.” I wrote that first because, if you’re expecting an apology, you might as well stop reading now.  She also said “avoid cliches,” but this whole thing is so predictable it’s hard to avoid them. I’m going to say it. I’m not surprised […]

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The Shape of My Damage – Kintsugi

I don’t cry in front of people- it means I’m “a baby” and I’m weak,  at least that’s what I was told.  I don’t talk about the things closest to my heart, like my kids or my deepest fears, I don’t talk about the shape of my damage – because people will use those things […]

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Mom of a Daughter? Mom of a Son? Mom of Human Beings.

I was just very recently introduced to the expression “rape culture”, by a 15 year old girl who thought it was her job to school me on why I’m a “misogynistic pig who clearly hates her own gender.”  What did I do? What did I say to warrant  this very passionate presumption about my entire […]

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